Monday, May 31, 2010
Have you ever felt unprepared when you found a mate that seemed overly compatible for what you wanted? Did you opt for the less perfect instead of the obviously superior choice? Well, in this installment of Just GQ, I will be addressing the artform that is running from a good thing. The misconception in this issue lies in the mindset that only men run from good women, when the actuality of the dilemma shows that BOTH MEN AND WOMEN run from potential mates who propose genuine commitment offers while satisfying the checklist of requirements.
Now, I, personally, believe the panic associated with entering a relationship derives from this irrational link to marriage that saturates popular culture. People often claim to find “wifey”, portraying serious commitment when, in fact, that “serious commitment” will quite possibly be a thing of the past within a couple months, BUT the perception of this serious commitment petrifies those who feel their preparation pales in comparison to the other party involved. This is why you often see overeager men and women appear to chase after other men and women who appear to be playing, which brings me to my next point.
DISCLAIMER: I AM NOT GOING TO HIGH DIVE INTO THE “TEAM THEORY” IN THE INTEREST OF A FULLY SEPARATE BLOG! STAY TUNED TO JUST GQ!
Dating contains an ENTIRELY overly complicated factor in the bulk of social soirees (stints of dating). The practice of just dating wears a Halloween mask of casual sex and rarely knocks on the door of fully knowing and understanding each other. Men, especially, sprint in the opposite direction of relationships for the fear of “losing their player’s card” or having to “bench the squad” (unless he has other plans). The “team theory” serves men’s and women’s hunger to have their cake and eat it too. This is the idea that one can have a “main” who receives girlfriend/boyfriend treatment and other players who only receive the crumbs that remain, often not being treated as well as they desire but satisfied with some time instead of no time. Deep right?
A delicate dichotomy exists when one gauges where the line lies on the preparation fuel tank. Because of this, people carry on “talking sessions” that play the role of actual relationships while avoiding having to deem it the dreaded..(drum roll)..FACEBOOK OFFICIAL! In reality, this is greatly overrated because if you enjoy someone’s company then spend time with them. If you want monogamy and exclusivity, then discuss it, and if BOTH parties agree then be monogamous and exclusive! Avoid overcomplicating simple situations and understanding can be achieved. Clarity lives in simplicity (Just GQ quote)!
I appreciate you checking in the game with me once again. As always, I will continue addressing issues YOU want! Leave your comments and feel free to e-mail questions and topics you want to hear about to JustGQ50@gmail.com!
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