Monday, September 6, 2010
Greetings Just GQ readers! I apologize for my recent absence, but the subject of this Just GQ speaks to the reasoning for that. I recently relocated in order to set the train holding my future plans on the tracks with the advancement of my education in a more concentrated fashion. As I have continued my progression through the levels of self-evolution, I have realized that in order to achieve the goals you should have already set for yourself (and we spoke earlier about goal setting in a previous Just GQ), it is a MUST that you PRESS FORWARD!
Throughout the stages in the maturation process, people evolve in relation to their environments and what holds importance to them, and because of that relationships sometimes suffer. I have been deemed selfish in multiple situations due to my apprehension to carry relationships with me as I have changed settings, and there are, as in every situation, pros and cons to this alternative. I am a firm believer that as you strive for achievement it is PERFECTLY ACCEPTABLE to be selfish, in terms of the distribution of focus on self as opposed to others because to be bluntly honest, relationships will come and go, and as they go if more concentration is placed on others than self, self-neglect takes place and the amount you have to contribute to a relationship becomes diminished.
Conversely, as I have matured, I have realized that while the aforementioned sentiments remain true, there is a definite possibility that a significant other can enhance your progression rather than inhibit it. Communication wears an appropriate suit in the majority of situations, and this scenario bears no exception. There have been times when I have been hasty and stubborn in my reception to include others in the decisions I have made. Typically, I would automatically outcast significant others upon the completion of the decision making process, and depending on the stage of life this practice may be a wise one, BUT perhaps an evaluation of the effect your significant other could have on your experience should be in order.
How can you evaluate this, you ask? Peruse your past experiences with this person. How have you all interacted prior to this point? Have they been supportive of your advancement, or have they caused more problems? Are they understanding of your focus and the importance of attaining your goals? As settings change and the path the dreams becomes realized, understanding and compromise on both ends play an extremely pivotal role, and at this point compromise checks in the game! If you know your significant other has fundamental needs in their personality that must be satisfied in order to keep them happy, MAKE A REASONABLE EFFORT to satisfy these needs with priority and respect to the achievement for which you strive. In regards to the other party, your UNDERSTANDING and SUPPORT are vital! Encourage the person for whom you care deeply; be a rock on which they can lean as opposed to the trap of quicksand causing them to sink! As support systems hold essential importance, it would not be intelligent to phase people out who may be helpful to your overall progression because as I shared with you in “Falling For the Future”, when support, compromise, and communication are present, “as they strive, you strive, and as they reach, you reach!”
Special thanks to all my Just GQ readers who continued to check in the GAME in my absence. I truly appreciate it as Just GQ continues to mature in popularity. God Bless!
Posted by GQ50 at 5:52 PM